Shiny red hearts, boxes of chocolate, cookies and cakes, roses and bouquets. Oh yeah...it's February. Are you into it? Is love on your mind? Are you psyched or are you sad?
I've got some tips for you for Valentine's Day whether you are in a relationship, contentedly single, or in search of a great partner.
While its so romantic to think of your partner as "completing you" it is not a healthy or practical idea. Being in a healthy relationship means you show up whole. You are not a part that is made whole by matching up with another person. When you bring your whole self to a relationship, when you are owning your vibrancy and not dimming your light, when you are squashing those egg-shells and not tip-toeing over them, then you are showing up WHOLE! Sure it's sexy to remember Tom Cruise and Renee Zellweger in Jerry Maguire. You know what's even sexier? You being true to yourself.
How to Be Your Authentic Self and Unleash Your Power and Sex-Appeal:
Be mindful of your self-talk. Take a breath and tune in. Listen to your thoughts as though you are listening to a dear friend. (You are!)
If your self-talk depletes you, acknowledge the thoughts and then imagine them floating away. You are not your thoughts.
Now choose thoughts, images and feelings that represent the parts of you that you truly love. What is it about yourself that makes you feel vibrant? How can you elevate your thoughts to be focused on your power and your presence?
When in conversation with others, notice sensations in your body. Are you at ease? Do you feel calm and confident? Are you willing to be vulnerable and let your true self shine?
Do you hold back? This is the "egg-shell" reference. I want you to crush them! Let those yolks fly! When you hold yourself back, how can someone else love you? They won't even know you. When you express yourself from the heart, you may attract or repel another. And, you will definitely be empowered and shining your brightest light upon them.
Dare to be you. We need you! You brighten my world!