I'll Try vs. I Will💪🏼
- Carla Hugo
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The beautiful blossom pictured above was taken by my daughter while she was working on a farm. It is an okra plant with a stunning blossom. Do plants in nature try to grow? Do they struggle to bloom? Do they get nervous and decide, "not today?" Do they think other plants can do it, but not them? No! They don't "say" I'll try, they "say" I am or I will.
Sure, we're not plants. I get it. Think about trying as it pertains to picking up an object. Can you try to pick up a pencil? Or do you either pick it up or leave it alone? Trying is a word that provides a cushion for all types of excuses. It welcomes in your self-doubt and fears.
When you say, "I'll" or "I will" you are commanding your thoughts, you are pre-paving a plan of action, and are setting yourself up for success. For example, you can say, "I will ask for a raise. And if I have fearful thoughts, I will address them. If I feel unworthy, I will remind myself why I am worthy." If I "try" to speak with my boss, I may never do so. If I will speak to my boss, I have a shot at that raise!
When you say, "I will" and then feel the fear that comes along with it, it is okay. Nothing interesting or challenging happens in life without a little bit of fear or anxiety. That feeling informs your body and mind that something exciting is about to happen. When you practice mindful awareness, you are able to notice your fearful thoughts and examine them for accuracy. Is it true? Can you prove it? What's the worst thing that can happen?
When you begin practicing mindful awareness, you are able to distance yourself from your thoughts. You see, YOU are not your thoughts. Your thoughts occur organically and you have the option to witness them and allow them to float on by. You do not need to become attached to your thoughts.
When you say, "I will" instead of "I'll try" you are inviting your authentic self to blossom and can rely on your ability to release your self-talk. In just a few sessions with me I will show you how to transform from someone who tries to someone who IS!
